The Power of the Pause: Self-regulation and Healing with Jessica Jante

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Welcome back.

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I'm super excited for a brand new episode today with a very special guest, Jessica Dianti.

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What I love about Jessica is, like, I talk about this podcast all the time.

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We met at a live event.

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Like, live events and retreats are the best thing for meeting amazing, like minded people and I'm sure we'll get into that later.

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But Jessica is a breath work and embodiment coach, someone that I met recently in Canada and I'm excited to have her share her vision, her mission and how she came from like western medicine to where she is now and how that is such a really good recipe for integrating the both.

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And thank you for being here, Jessica.

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Thank you so much for having me.

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I'm so excited to be here.

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Tell us a little bit more, when, where did your journey start?

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How did you evolve to where you are today and just give us a little background into your world.

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And I'm excited because I'm going to learn just as much as those that are listening.

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Awesome.

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So I'm actually a nurse by background.

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I've been a nurse for, it was 20 years in May, which is kind of crazy to think about.

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So, yeah, I loved, I felt like that was my passion, being a nurse.

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That's really all that I knew to do, like growing up.

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My grandma worked in healthcare.

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She was a CNA and I love her.

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She was just one of my most inspirational people growing up in my life.

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And so I think I really just wanted to help people like she did.

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And at the time, the only thing that I knew to do, I come from a small little town, was be an EMT or be a nurse.

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And so I decided on the nursing path and I was passionate about it for a very long time.

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Loved working with patients.

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I worked in the ICU for a very long time.

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And then I ended up leaving that area just due to politics and different things in the hospital setting and went to a different department.

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And after that I really felt this disconnect, like, okay, this is not where I really want to be anymore.

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But I don't know what I want to do.

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And I had gone to this conference.

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It was in 2019.

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It was called Rise.

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I don't know if you've heard of Rachel Hollis and her rise movement, but she wrote a book, and so I went to a conference of hers.

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And I think that was the first time that I really thought, like, okay, there, you know, I could do something more with my life.

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There's more.

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It made for more was, like, her slogan.

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And so I left feeling empowered and, like, okay, what do I want to do?

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What do I want to do with my life?

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And so being back in the nursing and, like, my whole world, my whole life was western medicine.

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And if you got sick, you went to the doctor, and there really wasn't much outside of, like, thinking out of the box besides being a nurse or staying in your profession.

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And I also grew up in a family where we owned parents, owned a business.

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And so in that mentality was that you stayed doing what you're doing for the rest of your life.

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Like, you just.

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You die doing what you're, like, what you do.

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And so after I got back to being in the hospital, I just felt this wrestling inside my soul.

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And now I know it was, like, this disconnect.

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Like, I was misaligned, this disconnect of my soul and my mind and my body, like, they were all just being pulled in different directions.

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And so it took me quite a while.

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I didn't actually leave the hospital setting until about three years ago.

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So what was that, 2021?

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Yeah, something like that.

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And so it was one of the hardest decisions I've ever made in my whole life.

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I had a very comfortable job.

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I got paid very well.

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I didn't know what to do outside of that.

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I carried the benefits and the insurance and all that safety net that you have as a provider in your home.

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And we have two kids.

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So my husband owns his own business, and he's in the construction trades, and so his is always a little bit like, you just never know.

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And so me having that stable, secure job was, for us, something that just needed to happen.

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And so it took a while, actually.

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There was, like, he gave me this permission, and I think I was waiting for that almost to just be like, you just need to leave.

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There's lots of things that happened that I don't need to go into all the details.

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But then Covid happened.

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I was already burnt out, overwhelmed, feeling disconnected from where I was.

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And then that just, like, piled on top.

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And then I started seeing that maybe the western medicine model that I'm in isn't where I'm supposed to be.

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I just felt like we were pushing people in and out, in and out, in and out.

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And I wasn't really giving the care and the time and attention that I wanted to my patients, to people that I was here to serve.

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And that's what I feel like I am here for, is to help and to heal.

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And I wasn't doing that with where I was anymore.

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And so I up and left, gave my notice, and I decided to figure it out.

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Like, I had nothing behind me.

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I didn't have a job set up, nothing.

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So it took a few months for me to try to figure out, like, what I was gonna do.

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And I found this program that was called the nurse coach collective, and I was like, oh, I don't really know exactly what that is, but I'm gonna look into it.

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And it just felt super aligned.

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Like, okay, this is the way to get out of this medical model and to really heal and help people.

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Like, I want.

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Like, I feel like I am made to in my soul.

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So I joined that.

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And, I mean, it was just a snowball.

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I started learning things about myself that I had no idea.

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I didn't know there was a different way of living, that there was different healing modalities, you know, acupuncture and breath work, meditation, all these different things.

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I mean, there's so much more, too, but, like, that's what's coming to the top of my head.

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Well, when I started realizing that there's so much more than just going to a doctor and taking a pill for XYZ or taking a pill, that the second that you feel a headache coming on, like, there's so many other ways to heal our body and to actually listen to maybe the cues our body is giving us to get to the root of why it's happening.

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And so I've been on this three year journey of basically unlearning everything that I thought I had to be and who I had to be and how I had to show up.

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I also have, you know, I have my high school.

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I'm married to my high school sweethearts.

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We've been together for 20.

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I mean, it was our 20 year anniversary just in September, but we were together for a while before that, so I just felt like I checked all the boxes.

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When I was younger, I went to school.

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Then I graduated high school, went to college for nursing.

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Then we had kids, then we got a dog, and we had a house, and we had everything except the white picket fence, basically.

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So I checked all the boxes.

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Everything looked great on the outside, but on the inside, I was, like, dying inside.

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So, yeah, after I became a coach, then I hired a coach of my own, and it kind of took me down this journey of, like, she asked me really important questions, like, who are you outside of being a nurse?

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Who are you outside of being a mom?

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Who are you outside of being a wife?

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And so these were questions I had never asked myself.

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And it felt very challenging and very scary because I was like, I don't even know.

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I don't know who I am.

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I don't know what I believe.

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I also grew up in a very strict christian background, and so I was even starting to think about, like, okay, well, what is this life?

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Is there even a guy?

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Like, I went down this whole dark path of, like, really feeling like, I don't even know, what is this life and what am I doing and where am I going?

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And, you know, so it was a really kind of scary time.

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But also, now looking back on it, amazing, because it let me let go of all of these things that I had to be for everyone else and try to truly feel into and learn who I am and what I want and how I want to show up in the world.

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So this last three years has been this big process of unlearning, unraveling, and then really stepping into who I am and how I want to show up and how I want to serve.

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So, yeah, such a beautiful story, too, of just, like, being devoted to something for 20 years and, like, having this example of, like, this is what you do for the rest of your life.

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And then, like, being gifted this time during COVID like, that pivoted you into, like, who the heck am I when I lose all these labels?

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And something that's really special, I think about your story, too, is I don't think that you completely, like, let go of all that you learned and you invested.

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It's like, you almost, like, till it up, turn it into organic soil, and you're, like, weaving through, like, what do I want to bring with me?

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And what do I want to leave behind?

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And there's no accidents in the journey, right?

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But, like, that, you know, you have a husband that supported you and was like, go, leave.

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Like, taking away the security and the safety for you to, like, find your joy and your fulfillment.

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And now it's blessed you on this path of, like, devotion to who you're becoming and the growth and the skills and, like, how can I continue to serve?

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Like, I have a lot of clients that were nurses before, and I think it's because that desire to serve and, like, really go all in to help people.

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But, like, there's another way that doesn't, like, cost you.

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Burnout, overworking, being in a hospital, like, that type of environment and, like, coming in to.

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But I imagine that there was some struggles that you went through, like, not knowing how.

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There wasn't, like, a, here's the pathway, you know, that gave me chill just saying that out loud because it's like, when we become leaders and, like, you know, we pave our own path, it's like you are the example.

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You have to become the evidence.

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It's not like you quit this path that you devoted your life to and there was someone showing you how to get there, but you did.

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What most people do is like, you hire a coach of like, hey, how do I get where I want to go?

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Even though you didn't know exactly where you were going.

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But, like, what came up in that transition of, like, I'm just going to figure it out because I think there's a lot of people that are, like, they want to know how before they take the leap, but the how happens in the manifestation of taking the leap first.

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And I'd love to hear your take on that because you're on the other side and I know that you probably have so much wisdom to give to those that are just, like, ready to fly.

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Thank you.

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Yeah, I mean, it is, it's like this wisdom that you gain while you are going through the journey.

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So a lot of people think, and I was the same way, too, and that's why I'm speaking it out loud, is that I felt like I needed someone to lead me and to guide me and knowing that we truly have everything we need inside of us if we really get quiet enough to listen.

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That's what I think.

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I've learned a lot over the last six months, has been a deep journey inward to let go of everything that everybody else is telling me I have to do and how I have to do it and why I have to do it, and it's going to give me this result or that result and really just leaning into my own wisdom.

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But at first it was a lot of imposter syndrome, a lot of who am I?

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Like, yes, I have this nursing background, but when you are outside of this, like, traditional nursing model, and now I'm over here trying to help people as a coach, I quickly realized that I didn't want to just help in the sense of, like, the health and nutrition aspect which would have been, like, the.

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I don't know.

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I don't want to say the safe way to go, but, like, a natural, like, occurrence to go into what I really wanted to get out of.

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I didn't want to give supplements.

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I didn't want to give health information.

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I really wanted to find the deep meaning of why, like, why are we getting so sick?

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And why are we sicker than we've ever been before?

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And why is there so much disease?

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And then finding out that we can heal our body through food and through different ways of living and being, it really took me down this road, and I think I.

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This will be for anybody that goes on a journey.

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It's like, when you are open enough to just be like, okay, the next step, whatever the next step is, will bring me to where I need to go.

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Like, I will just.

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And that's what's happened.

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It's been this beautiful unfolding of meeting new people, of someone saying, hey, you should meet this person, or, hey, I've heard of this.

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Why don't you look into this?

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And so all these avenues, I've just.

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They've literally just been coming to me.

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And so it's been in my discernment of being, like, okay, this is where I think I need to head.

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Like, this is what is speaking to me the most.

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And so that's led me down to the path of where I've been now, where I really got into the nervous system and learning about.

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And I knew a lot about the nervous system from being a nurse, but I didn't know the depths of it.

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I didn't know that we are constantly living in this.

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Our sympathetic nervous system is on all the time, which is your fight or flight response.

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So we've got our parasympathetic and our sympathetic.

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And our parasympathetic is this rest and digest, this calmer sense.

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And so it's trying to balance them both out.

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It's not just always wanting you to live in your parasympathetic, but it's allowing you to feel into the movement, into the regulation of.

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If something happens and you get triggered, how do we bring you down to this place?

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Like, panic attacks.

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Like, there's so many people that have anxiety and so much stress and are getting panic attacks and depression.

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And so if we can learn how to regulate our nervous system and ourselves and our own bodies, that is huge.

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There is so much disease we can heal in our body if we just learn to.

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Like, I call it the power of the pause is what I love to call it, because it's taking that time to reflect on who you are and how you want to show up and to serve and to be in the world.

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So I don't know if I answered your question fully, but there definitely is that imposter syndrome when you start.

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There's definitely that.

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Who am I to help somebody else?

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Who am I to lead other people?

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Who am I to do this when I haven't done this before?

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And I'm just gonna say that you grow and you learn as you do, and it's just a beautiful unfolding.

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Beautiful unfolding, yeah.

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And I think you did answer it, you know, in the sense that you're like.

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As I took the leap, the pathways began to open up, and you found the power of, like, I have what I need inside of me when I listen.

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But, like, coming back to, like, the nervous system where if we're always in fight or flight, we don't have the power of the pause to sit and to listen and to trust the downloads that come through, because our mind is so busy doing that, we don't have the sacred quietness.

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But I think when we're in that, like, nine to five busy, do, do, do, there's no space to be bored.

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There's no space to let the wisdom come through.

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And I remember going from working nine to five, working all of the time, to being, like, a yoga teacher, and, like, what do I do with this time?

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Like, feeling guilty to read a book and feeling guilty to pause, and then it was like, oh, yeah, I have all the wisdom inside of me.

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And I'm curious, just, you know, for you, who has, like, done a lot of work in, like, the western of, like, let's just cover it up.

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Let's just take medicine.

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Like, let's not get to the root cause or, like, self inquiry.

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What is the nervous system telling me?

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What is my body telling me?

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Like, you know, dis ease is something the body has been telling you for some time, but it actually manifests when we ignore what the body is speaking to us and what it is sharing.

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But if we're in dis ease or dysregulation, like, we can't listen to ourselves.

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So how did you find that ability to, like, go to open space, like, open calendar, like, nowhere to be?

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And, like, how did you enter that space of, like, my nervous system is not sure how to be in the sacredness of the pause.

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And when did you know, like, I have what I need inside of me.

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Like, I have this happen a lot where it's like, I'm waiting for the right answer before I go on that retreat.

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I'm waiting for the answer before I hire the coach.

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Where in the beginning, we can be chasing the answer outside of ourselves.

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What is this coach going to give me?

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What is this retreat going to give me?

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What can I get?

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Rather than, like, what am I going to learn through listening?

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So this has such great wisdom that you just shared there.

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Yeah.

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So to back it up just a little bit, I have what's called pots.

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So it's postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome.

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So, basically, when I go from laying down to standing up, my heart rate skyrockets.

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I've never actually passed out, but I've gotten very close.

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Many times this happened.

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We were on a trip, actually, in Mexico.

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My kids were little, my husband, it was just my husband and I.

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And that was the first time it happened, and I didn't know what was happening.

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I ended up going home, and it happened again.

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And so it happened numerous times over maybe like a month or two period of time.

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I went to the ER a couple times.

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They could never figure out what happened or what was happening.

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So I ended up finding this doctor who had just so happened to read this article about pots.

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And so she diagnosed me, which a lot of people don't get a diagnosis for years.

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So I was very fortunate that she had just read this article, and it all worked out.

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But I was on medication for a while.

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It made me feel awful.

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I hated it.

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It made me feel tired.

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It was to slow down my heart rate, basically.

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And so it just made me feel lethargic, and I just did not like it.

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There's no cure.

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It's basically learning how to listen to my body was really what I have found has helped me in my symptoms.

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So, fast forwarding to maybe about two years ago, breath work found me.

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And so when I say that it found me, like it truly did.

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I had this coach that would talk about breath work.

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We would open up our sessions with a little bit of breath, and I didn't know anything outside of that.

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So there was a session that just so happened to pop up at a yoga studio near me, and I was like, you know what?

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I've heard of breath work.

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This sounds kind of cool.

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Let's try it out.

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So I tried it, and instantaneously.

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Like, I, after that session was like, this is what my body needs.

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Like, this is what I just felt such a deep, deep yearning for, this connection to my body.

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And that's what the breath work journey had given me.

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That's what the breath work, you know, time, I think it was like an hour and a half.

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It had really shown me that I'm living in this state of dysregulation, that I am living in this go, go, go.

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But just to take this power of the pause and just being with your breath is so important.

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And so I ended up, over a period of time, I ended up getting a certification myself.

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I became a trauma informed breath work facilitator.

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So that is a good chunk of what I do and how I help women.

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So in this process, in this learning, in this doing, this certification, it was six months of being in this container, basically, breathing every single day, doing this breath work every single day.

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And through that, like, I haven't had any more pups.

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I shouldn't say haven't had.

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I haven't had any, but I've had a couple, like, symptoms where I'm like, okay, I can feel that it's coming on, so then I'll go lay down or something.

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But I don't have episodes like I used to have.

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And I truly attribute it to learning my body, learning to listen and to feel into the subtle cues that my body is giving me.

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I need to hydrate.

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I avoid caffeine.

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I avoid alcohol as much as possible.

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I do drink every now and then, but I know that if I do those things, it just exacerbates it.

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So I just really try to focus on who I am and feeling into my body, and that's truly been through the breath.

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Like, for me, I know there's lots of different ways that you can learn and feel into your body, but for me, breath work has really helped me go from this, being in this constantly go, go, go state, always feeling stressed, always feeling triggered, always feeling like, I can't just sit and be.

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Because I think I was this way.

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Like meditation.

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If there's anybody listening where you're like, I can't meditate.

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I can't sit for more than a minute or two, because my mind just is all over the place.

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I was the same.

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100% the same.

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I mean, I think anybody who is working at nine to five has that stress, that constant going, going, especially if you are in a high stress environment like nursing or being an EMT or a doctor, when you have to constantly be on all the time, it is hard to turn that off when you go home, because then you have your family and you have, you know, your kids, and you have all the other responsibilities that you need to do.

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It is hard to turn that off.

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And so for me, it's been learning that taking the pause is what's been the most beneficial for my health, for my healing, for my health.

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And so I make it a priority to take that power of the pause, leaning into my body's wisdom, trying to listen to my body and just being with my breath.

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Because that has gotten me to this place where I was constantly, always going and stressed and on to being able to turn that off very easily if I need to, just to regulate myself very easily with the power of my breath.

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So, I mean, we are brought up with, you know, especially.

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I mean, for me, my parents owned a business, and we just worked in the business as soon as we could.

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And so there was never downtime.

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I think on Saturday mornings, my dad would bring donuts home because we owned the bakery.

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So that was the only time that we got the donuts was on Saturday morning.

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And we got to watch cartoons while we ate the donuts.

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And maybe Friday nights, there's this thing called TGIF where we could watch certain shows on Friday nights, but that was about it.

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Like, we didn't get to watch tv.

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We didn't get to sit.

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If you sat, you were lazy.

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You had to get up.

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You had to be contributing to the family.

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You had to be doing chores.

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You had to be doing something.

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Being productive meant doing.

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And now I've really learned through the breath work journey that I've been on.

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And just through this learning and healing journey I've been on, is that truly taking that power of the pause is just as productive, sometimes even more productive for your body, your mind, your soul, everything, your whole body healing than constantly going and doing.

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Yeah.

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So, so potent, so powerful, all that you share, because it's just like this example of so many different things.

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Like, one, like what you do and how you serve is because of what you've gone and been through and explored and discovered all on your own path of, like, this is how I've done it.

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This is what I've learned through exploration with my body.

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But also the conditioning of society.

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Like, the more that you do, the more successful that you are.

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And then also that sacredness of, like, the nervous system has two parts.

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Because you're supposed to be in fight or flight sometimes.

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Like, that's a good thing.

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And you're also supposed to be in rest or digest.

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Like, neither one of them is bad unless you always live.

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And rest and digest.

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Unless you always live.

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You know, we have both of them for a reason.

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And it's like learning how to balance.

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Both of them.

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It's like, the fear that we feel when we want to hire a coach or we want to go to a retreat or we want to quit our job or we want to leave a partner.

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Like, the body's scared because it's like, wait, this isn't comfortable.

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But also, then the rest and digest is there for us to, like, collect everything that we've gone through and, like, really process it in the body.

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And I love just how you've, like, tied all that together.

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And, like, this is what I do and how I serve.

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And with, like, where you've gone today and the journey that you've been on, what do you think has been, like, the biggest.

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Has had the biggest impact on, like, what you do and how you serve and the way that you hold space.

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Like, how have you weaved that together into, like, for someone?

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You know, I think about it in, like, the business aspect.

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You know, it's like, yes, we should really grow an audience, and we should serve them and we should sell them.

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But, like, you should also live your.

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Life and take time off and close the computer and close the phone.

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And so it's like, that balance there, but also just the balance.

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And, like, okay, everything that I've gone through, like, what is it that I'm gonna birth and bring to the world?

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And, like, what are you birthing now?

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Like, you've done this now for three years.

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Like, it's constantly evolving, which is another really big theme that you've shared and shown, is, like, we are ever evolving, and so is the work that we do.

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And, like, what would you say right now is, like, your greatest gift that you do with your clients?

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I think one of my biggest, or, like, a moment that I take with me that's been on my healing journey has been when I first started my breath work training, it was the first session that we breathed, and she, for no fault of her own, just told us to find safety in our body.

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And so now coming from western medicine model being on constantly going all of the time and only having two breath work sessions that I had ever done in my life, I had no idea what she was talking about.

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So she just kept telling us to find safety not in other things, not in other people, but in ourselves.

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And that whole 60 minutes session, the only thing I could think about was, I don't know what she's talking about.

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I don't know how to do this.

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I'm doing it wrong.

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How do I.

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It was this constant mind chatter, and so something that I really tried to bring in, especially to the first session that I do with clients, is trying to, excuse me, trying to establish and find safety in the body.

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Because if we don't feel safe for one, safety creates an environment for healing and for change and for growth.

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And it's not that you always have to feel safe when you are growing because, yes, sometimes you have to lean into that fear.

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You have to lean into like, oh, my gosh, this feels scary, and this is an edge and what do I do?

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But you also have to find that safety in yourself.

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And knowing that who you are at the core of your existence, you are your own safety.

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Like, you are your own person.

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When you are truly showing up as your authentic self, as who you are in this world and meant to be in this world, there is safety, there is trust that has to be built and to be shown to other people so that they can find it themselves.

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And so that is one of the deepest journeys that I love to bring people on is really to finding.

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Finding safety and trust in yourself.

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And when you come from a background where you've had abuse or trauma of, you know, any sort, I mean, there's lots of different traumas that we can go through there.

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Sometimes it's really hard to find that safety.

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It's hard to feel safe in your own body.

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It's hard to trust in yourself and your decisions that you're making.

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And so that is something that I really love to do.

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I just love to help women.

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Like, that's typically who I work with is women.

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But to create, like, I love group programs, too, and just creating this safe container for people to come and show up vulnerably, because that's another thing, vulnerability.

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Like, when we can show up vulnerable and we can show up and bring it all on the table and not worry about what the other people are going to think or say about us when we just show up that way, that gives permission for the other people in the circle, for the other people in the space, for the facilitator as well, just to show up and be fully authentic.

:: 29:36

And so that's what I love to do.

:: 29:38

I love bringing women together, creating safe spaces for safety, connection, empowerment, just.

:: 29:47

Yeah, like, and whole body healing.

:: 29:49

Like, not just the physical aspect and not just the mental aspect, but putting it all together, the mind, the body and the soul.

:: 29:58

Yeah.

:: 29:59

So beautiful, too, because it's like when you look at the breath body, like in yoga philosophy, there are five layers of the human existence, you know, and one of them literally is the breath body, you know?

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And so being able to heal on all these levels doesn't happen unless there is safety in the body.

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And, like, when we've had trauma or however you, like, everyone experiences trauma differently.

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But, like, what I found working with women is we've all been sexually abused or hidden something inside.

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And so it's, like, hard for us to feel safety if we've ever went against what our body was telling us or someone's taken advantage of us.

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So coming together with other women to feel that safety, it's like, oh, it's not just me.

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I'm not alone.

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So it really gathers and creates that community.

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And so I love that you bring that aspect together.

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And for so many of my listeners, it's like women really healing from the inside out to grow and expand into all areas of life.

:: 31:01

And, yeah, I know that we could talk about this probably for so, so long, but one question I always like to ask is, like, amplified impact is, like, the impact, the ripples that you have in your own life from the work that you've done.

:: 31:14

Like, why are you here for so much more?

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Like, you had a great job, you had the service, you had all of the checked boxes, but you knew you were here for more, not out of what you already had wasn't enough, but your soul, the itching, the calling.

:: 31:34

Like, I'm here for so much more.

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Which is what I love that you said about Rachel Hollis, because I didn't realize that was part of her movement.

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But for me, I'm like, I'm here for so much more.

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We're here together for so much more.

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What does that mean to you?

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And what are you here more for?

:: 31:50

It made me a little emotional when you're talking about it, because I think in the last.

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The last six months has been a really big growth edge for me in learning the wisdom of my body and really feeling into, what am I here to do?

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Instead of just the going and the doing.

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Well, what am I here to do?

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And how am I here to serve?

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And I think a big thing that I've been learning is that I'm here to heal my lineage, that, like, I have a daughter, she's 18, and then I have, you know, all the women before me.

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And there are.

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There are parts that I know when I've been doing this healing work that things that come up where I'm like, I don't think that's mine.

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I think that's my mom's, or I think that's my grandma's.

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Especially as I've been doing.

:: 32:44

I've been in some containers lately where we've been doing some homework and doing, like, just feeling into those pieces of us.

:: 32:53

And I think I've just been leaning into, I'm here to heal.

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So that, like, yes, my daughter is 18 already, and so I haven't done this.

:: 33:03

I haven't been in this work as long.

:: 33:05

And when she was, she's not living at home anymore, but when she was, she was in that teenage area where you.

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You don't really believe everything that your parents are saying or you don't think they're as, you know, cool and wise and things like that.

:: 33:20

So that was hard for me because I feel like I wasn't able to share with her all of this wisdom that I'm learning now.

:: 33:28

But I do know that when I heal that it heals the generations after me, and it also heals the generations before me and that, you know, maybe if there's been some trauma, especially, like, sexual trauma and things in my ancestors before me, that I can heal so that it doesn't keep continuing the patterns don't keep continuing these generational patterns, these cycles of unhealthy and unhealed and struggle that we've gone through as women, that I can heal that.

:: 34:06

And it can start with me, and it can ripple.

:: 34:08

It can ripple both ways.

:: 34:09

It can ripple to my daughter and to her kids, and it can ripple to my mom and even the women before me that are no longer with us anymore.

:: 34:19

And so I think that is truly why I'm here, is to help also bring that and for other women to see that as well.

:: 34:26

Gosh, you brought me to tears.

:: 34:28

You gave me chills.

:: 34:29

Like, literally.

:: 34:30

Jessica, the promotional video for here for more was me talking about going to an event this year, being pregnant with a little girl and realizing that my work here was ancestral and that, like, I had to cut my mom out of my life while that was happening.

:: 34:47

And so for you to reflect that to me and me not know that, I'm just like, oh, my gosh.

:: 34:51

Like, this is why women like us are changing the world, because it's the past and it's the present.

:: 34:58

And just, like, sitting here knowing that there's someone else that realizes they're more here as ancestral lineage, it's like, that's so big.

:: 35:07

It's so heavy, and it's such a gift, you know?

:: 35:10

So it's like, wow, I was just like, you were speaking to.

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To me.

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And it's like, it's so fascinating because, you know, you are 20 years ahead of me in you know, raising your children.

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But to, like, have someone like you as an example of, like, what that gets to be like, is really, really special.

:: 35:27

Like, how much you care still, even though they're not at home, you know, it's just like, wow, this is just really the beginning.

:: 35:35

Yeah.

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And how powerful it's going to be for you that you already know this.

:: 35:41

You know, that your child will grow up.

:: 35:47

Yeah.

:: 35:47

Having you as an example.

:: 35:51

And I think that, like, you know, it's like, it's because of you.

:: 35:53

And then this generation that, like, is merging together of, like, the women that had children before and those that are having children now, it's like the collective consciousness is seeking more.

:: 36:05

Like, that's what I feel.

:: 36:06

I have so many chills and so many goosebumps.

:: 36:09

You are amazing, Jessica.

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I just want to thank you.

:: 36:11

Like, I know the nuggets, the wisdom that people are leaving here with and, yeah, let us know, like, where they can go find you.

:: 36:19

They can follow you.

:: 36:20

They can check out your breath, work your embodiment coaching.

:: 36:22

Like, I know you have live events and retreats coming soon.

:: 36:26

Like, just let us know where we can plug in in the show notes.

:: 36:29

And those that are listening run and follow this woman.

:: 36:32

She is full of so much wisdom and so much gold.

:: 36:37

Yeah.

:: 36:38

So do you want me to tell you my handles and things here?

:: 36:40

Yeah, just drop it here now so those that are listening can run, and then they can also click into the show notes.

:: 36:47

So I have a website.

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It's.

:: 36:48

It's my name, basically.

:: 36:49

So it's ww dot Jessica and t.com.

:: 36:53

i have.

:: 36:54

I have a podcast actually on there as well, so.

:: 36:56

And I have how to work with me and all of that.

:: 36:59

I'm on socials, Facebook, and Instagram.

:: 37:02

It's just my name.

:: 37:03

It's Jessica GMT, I think, on both of them.

:: 37:06

Yeah.

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I have a free meditation on my website, so if you're interested in that, you can go ahead and click on that.

:: 37:13

And.

:: 37:13

Yeah, I have a retreat coming up in October, actually.

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It's like two weekends from now.

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So it's kind of crazy.

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Just at a little cute, little quaint area in Wisconsin, upper Wisconsin.

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And my future is to be doing more.

:: 37:28

I have one in the works for Mexico in January and hopefully more in the future as well.

:: 37:34

So.

:: 37:35

Yeah.

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Yeah, I love that.

:: 37:37

And those listening, just be sure, you know, take a screenshot.

:: 37:40

Let us know what really landed for you.

:: 37:42

Your biggest takeaway.

:: 37:44

Tag Jessica.

:: 37:45

Tag me on Instagram.

:: 37:46

Let us know that you are listening.

:: 37:49

And be sure to head over to the show notes to follow Jessica and check out her website and her podcast and all the things.

:: 37:57

Bye.